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Living The Lie

August 10, 2009

Don’t be a tourist in my reality
For I go from here to all eternity
A state of nothingness is not to be
And I search this cage for a door to be free
Don’t be fooled by how I appear
For the truth will disappoint u my dear
Feelings that are felt deep inside
Are realised only through love and it’s light
So see not my truth in the flesh alone
But feel me all the way in your bone
I’m looking for something different behind that face
And you are smiling, thinking “what a waste”
It’s easy to take the easy path and live all the lies
And realise too late the truth before you close your eyes
But the reality is nothing but pain.
Against which my mind holds back and refrains
It’s an irony the lord made truth but he made it so hard to bear
As I carry on running away from it’s steely stare….

 

Iqbaldinho

30/6/2003

Do you sell just Products or do you sell experiences?

May 16, 2009

(this is a stream of consciousness, not a structured essay)

An Omnia is a product an Iphone is an experience,

A Rexona bodyspray is a product a Chanel No. 5 is an experience

A Toyota is a product a Ferrari is an experience

Hilton Hotel  is a product an Al-Burj is an experience

A Giodano is a product an Armani is an experience

What’s the difference between a good company and a great company? Good companies sell great products, great companies make great experiences happen. The product is the reason for companies that just sell products. For companies that sell experiences the product is an excuse.
Someone said a company that exists just to make profits is a poor form of business.
No matter how Richard Branson praises the iphone or gloats it’s features that are already available in the market – people are still going to buy it regardless. The cool features and other incoherent babbles of Branson will not make any difference to an iphoneophile. It’s almost like an evangelist talking to a bunch of Christians – the content matters little they already know what they want to hear. That’s why the bible, when truely followed will talk of a different religion very alien to the anglo-saxon versions.

When we use a product, it is dispensable and replaceable. There are real alternatives to what you sell you may distinguish your product from the competition for all you care, at the end of the day your strivings are for the bottomline.

An experience is indispensable and irreplaceable. Once felt, the human soul yearns for it and seeks to perpetuate the moment. It touches the most deepest part of our very humanity. Branson knows the soul of branding and capitalizes on it – it’s a little more than just niche marketing. It’s understanding what moves the human soul and creating vehicles that give such an experience. And in that process he hits pay dirt as he always had. While the product notwithstanding the brand is replaceable, the apple experience is not.

People who use a windows PC use it for a practical reason. People who use the mac use it because they love it despite being in the minority and having major compatibility problems with the majority of the computing world
Bill Gates and the president of General Motors have met for lunch, and Bill is going on and on about computer technology. “If automotive technology had kept pace with computer technology over the past few decades, you would now be driving a V-32 instead of a V-8, and it would have a top speed of 10,000 miles per hour,” says Gates. “Or, you could have an economy car that weighs 30 pounds and gets a thousand miles to a gallon of gas. In either case, the sticker price of a new car would be less than $50. Why haven’t you guys kept up?”
The president of GM smiles and says, “Because the federal government won’t let us build cars that crash four times a day.”

Given the limitations of technology and human intelligence to harness it to the things that we make for ourselves, efficiency and effectiveness of service of a product goes only so far – after which we plunge into the infinitude of the fuzzy world of aesthetics.

The primary reason for Nokia to become the number one seller of phones is it’s pioneering in phones that are more customizable and personalisable. From the phone covers’ colours and designs and the ring-tones right down to the wall paper and user interface. It was a such revolution and moved large swathes of population towards it’s products that threw it’s rival Erricsson into near bankruptcy before being saved by Sony. To be able to personalize a product is an emotional affair and that was the key to Nokia’s success – and they achieved through innovation and creativity. It set a new standard and redefined role of mobile phones in human affairs to such an extent that they pre-occupy the length and breadth of our lives.

In a One Planet Programme by BBC World Service broadcast on 30th April 2009, Mike Williams was interviewing the bosses of 3 car companies at a Geneva Motor Show in March ‘09. Among them were bigwigs from Audi, Totota and Bently (I forget their names).

As cars are a major source of greenhouse gas emissions, it has become an issue for the green movement to tackle the issue of global warming with increasing pressure for cars to be built more eco-friendly. But it seems there is no urgency given to the matter with governments around the world giving token commitments to substantiate their lip services in the matter of green transport systems. The politicians themselves have failed to set an example as they zip about in their gas guzzlers.

Williams met the three men

While the other two seemed committed and concerned about going green with their plans for a green future, Stefan Segal of Chrysler was exquisitely unapologetic as he spoke with the passion of a disinterested realist in a “welcome to-the-real-world” sort of drone.

Williams asked : What Kind of cars are you going to make in the future Stefan?
Stefan : (we will be making) for sure emotional cars, I think at the end of the day we will still buy our cars with our heart and not our brain.
W : Is that wise do you think?
S : (sigh) you know, is it wise to fall in love?

That killed me. When you sell experiences people love you for it even though you may be a bastard. Cars are a personal affair for us and to simply call people let go of this love affair and to commit ourselves to the ethics of environmentalism is simply too much. That’s the reality that people feel but will never admit it because we all want to be on the side of political correctness.

You tell the environmentalist to give up jetsetting, or give up his fuel-efficient car – it’s inescapable. The environmentalists must touch the people in a way that gives them a good experience being environmentally conscientious. Rather than selling an environmental message everyone already knows that just makes everyone feel guilty, and at the end of the day hate them for it, they should concentrate on selling the experience of being environmentally conscientious. That’s the tough part.

The crux of the matter? If your product merely fills a need or just satisfies a utility, then people don’t care where it comes from they will change loyalties the moment they get a cheaper alternative. This is not the case if a product appeals to an individual’s emotions

Why is emotional appeal of a product so very important? Emotions are irrational visceral affections that make us humans – something that distinguishes us from the other beings. It is a cold cold world if we only make products to serve a utilitarian function. Products that appeal to our emotions touch our raw human essence in a way that will evoke a catharsis within our deepest unknown voids of our soul from which emanates the very essence of our humanity – that for some strange reason, people find it liberating. It’s like men looking at boobs and buns all day and yet are never bored with it. Why? Because the product is a creature that is made in such a way as to appeal to our innermost senses – an appeal that is hardwired in us so deep that we don’t have an inkling why we behave that way. We’ll never get bored with that.

Someone said People will forget what you said or what you did. But the will never for get how you made them feel.

An emotion is irrational. The rationalization will come after the fact to acquiesce a guilt or fill a void that seeks a reason.

“This Nokia phone has a 5 megapixel camera” you say – but so does several other phones of the same genre. The real reason you bought it was perhaps the fact that it was a sliding phone or you could wrap your fingers around it with your fingertips barely touching your thumb– it just felt good that way. Oh and it comes with a good camera too.

The fact is people need a psychological mechanism to deal with the inner voids in their lives. But to accomplish that they need something tangible and worldly to act as a medium to achieve that abstract state of bliss.

In religion we need idols except maybe for the monk who sold his Ferrari. He felt a need to achieve a state of quiet bliss by letting go because he had found a better product – Buddhism. The Ferrari experience could not sustain itself in the long run.

Companies that merely sell products as opposed to those that sell an experience – the difference is immense. To create products that appeal to human emotions vs those that merely fill a need. That’s the difference between an iphone and a samsung omnia, between a Toyota and a Ferrari.
The Samsung has better features and it was created to rival the iphone. Alas the iphone truly stood out because it was an iphone.
The practical benefits and the economic wisdom (read: overpriced) of owning an iphone is an overzealous excuse to justify buying something that may not be as good as that of it’s closest rival. But people still buy it. The same logic goes for a ferrari vs a toyota. Ferrari does not sell cars – the car is merely a vehicle (no pun intended) to experience the bliss of the ferrari experience. You don’t buy a ferrari to get you from point a to point b. That’s a sin. You want to experience the journey, the destination is just a consequential side effect. The destination was merely an excuse to feel a Ferrari while for a toyota the destination is the reason for you to drive it.

How do you quantify an experience ? Dare i? Sex is an experience – but for the prostitute its a product – for her client they want an experience but end up with a cheap high that makes them more frustrated. The best experience of sex is between lovers – and that no money can buy. So knowing this, the prostitutes that command the highest salary usually sell an experience specifically tailored to suit a niche. Starbucks don’t sell coffee Zouk dosen’t sell $1 soft drinks at for $13- they sell the experience of drinking coffee, they sell the experience of clubbing – why else would people pay $4.90 for a cuppa? The drinks are just the props or a vehicle to take you on that experience, the ambience, the high. Whatever
People will forget the product but they will remember the experience. Because an experience is more visceral – and being something that touches one deeply, people tend to associate the abstractions of their experience with the specific tangible product. It’s easier that way. Products such as these tend to capitalise on certain human tendencies, characteristics or psyches and specifically tailor an experience compressed into a specific product that somehow or rather creates a state of mind that they will never get from another similar product

You don’t do love,
You don’t do sex
You don’t do friendship

You don’t do kisses

You don’t do the work of a father
All these are felt deep within – almost a human instinct expressed within human-social dynamics
The things that we do as a result of such experiences is the emotional by-product of that which was viscerally felt.
If you can do that, my friend – you have a successful product.

Arab Unity is Gone in the Face Of Gaza – But there is hope

February 23, 2009

I refer to the most recent doha debate in February 2009 , on Arab Unity as being dead and buried. The problem during the debate was that at the outset there was no consensus on what constitutes as THE indicator of Arabs being united. Does it refer to the popular solidarity such as the one seen in the face of ISraeli agressions against Arabs in 2006 and in Gaza 2009? Or is Arab unity defined by the intransigent and fragmented Arab political regimes and their leaders failing to agree on a whole range of issues affecting them curently? The debators surprisingly are in agreement about one thing though- that there IS  popular grassrots unity among the Arab people while there is not an iota of unity among the Arab Regimes.

The Arab League is a joke occupied by intractable and insecure old tyrants whose only concern it seems is their ability to stay in power. It has come to a point where they have to take draconian measures to prevent the Arab people from exercising their right to voice out this unity and muffle the loud noises that are coming from the ground seeking concerted political action against anti-Arab elements in Israel, the jewish Diaspora and a militarily adventurous US administration.

If we can see that Arab leaders are so disunited while the Arab people are – it can only mean one thing – that the Arab leaders are out of touch with the sentiments of their people. And to keep the staus quo of their positions they try to muffle the ground sentiments by their iron fisted, authoritarian rule. Some even use Islam as their reasons to justify the wanton suppression of women.

It is clear, from a political point that as long as Authoritarian regimes that oppress it’s people exist and there is severe repression of political dissent, there can never be any headway to be made towards Arab unity, peace and prosperity.

The Arab’s political disunity is too glaring and too impoartant to be disregarded as inconsequential to the question of Arab unity even in the face of a unity at the popular grassroots level simply because the leaders face the world, their opinion is what counts, they hold the power, they represent the people (even though they misrepresent them). This is largely due to the nature of Authoritarian rule where the balance of power is grossly tilted in favour of those who rule. This gives the leaders of such regimes an undue amount of clout and the reality of their political power under such a circumstance affords them the unjustifiabe privilege of their positions and opinions as being representative of its entire people. So the Arabs ARE disunited in that sense because popular Arab unity is grossly underweighted in the face of Arab political disunity because of the concentration of power and clout is in a single person or entity. In such a system political character and con stitution is the true definition and representation of the state of affairs.

10 tips for catching A liar

February 15, 2009

stumbled upon this on scribd.com – taken wholesale

You may want to use these methods – but may not want to call the liars’ bluff cos it may blow your cover and he may be more careful with you – which makes your job more difficult.

It may interest anyone to know that women are better liars than men – so being emotional creatures and physically weak they need the skills to slither out of a sticky situation without the need to use force – which they are not well equipped to do. It thus may be harder to catch them as they have higher EQs. Sorry guys – we’ve been had since the garden of Eden.  😉

10 Ways to Catch a Liar

Experts have 10 tips that can let you know if someone isn’t telling you the whole truth.

By Heather Hatfield Reviewed by Louise Chang, M D
J.J. Newberry was a trained federal agent, skilled in the art of deception detection. So when a witness to a shooting sat in front of him and tried to tell him that when she heard gunshots she didn’t look, she just ran — he knew she was lying.
How did Newberry reach this conclusion? The answer is by recognizing telltale signs that a person isn’t being honest, like inconsistencies in a story, behavior that’s different from a person’s norm, or too much detail in an explanation.
While using these signs to catch a liar takes extensive training and practice, it’s no longer only for authorities like Newberry. Now, the average person can become adept at identifying dishonesty, and it’s not as hard as you might think. Experts tell WebMD the top 10 ways to let the truth be known.

Tip No. 1: Inconsistencies
“When you want to know if someone is lying, look for inconsistencies in what they are saying,” says Newberry, who was a federal agent for 30 years and a police officer for five.
When the woman he was questioning said she ran and hid after hearing gunshots — without looking — Newberry saw the inconsistency immediately.
“There was something that just didn’t fit,” says Newberry. “She heard gunshots but she didn’t look? I knew that was inconsistent with how a person would respond to a situation like that.”
So when she wasn’t paying attention, he banged on the table. She looked right at him.
“When a person hears a noise, it’s a natural reaction to look toward it,” Newberry tells WebMD. “I knew she heard those gunshots, looked in the direction from which they came, saw the shooter, and then ran.”
Sure enough, he was right.
“Her story was just illogical,” says Newberry. “And that’s what you should look for when you’re talking to someone who isn’t being truthful. Are there inconsistencies that just don’t fit?”

Tip No. 2: Ask the Unexpected
“About 4% of people are accomplished liars and they can do it well,” says Newberry. “But because there are no Pinocchio responses to a lie, you have to catch them in it.”
Sir Walter Scott put it best: “Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!” But how can you a catch a person in his own web of lies?
“Watch them carefully,” says Newberry. “And then when they don’t expect it, ask them one question that they are not prepared to answer to trip them up.”

Tip No. 3: Gauge Against a Baseline
“One of the most important indicators of dishonesty is changes in behavior,” says Maureen O’Sullivan, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of San Francisco. “You want to pay attention to someone who is generally anxious, but now looks calm. Or, someone who is generally calm but now looks anxious.”
The trick, explains O’Sullivan, is to gauge their behavior against a baseline. Is a person’s behavior falling away from how they would normally act? If it is, that could mean that something is up.

Tip No. 4: Look for Insincere Emotions
“Most people can’t fake smile,” says O’Sullivan. “The timing will be wrong, it will be held too long, or it will be blended with other things. Maybe it will be a combination of an angry face with a smile; you can tell because their lips are smaller and less full than in a sincere smile.”
These fake emotions are a good indicator that something has gone afoul.

Tip No. 5: Pay Attention to Gut Reactions
“People say, ‘Oh, it was a gut reaction or women’s intuition,’ but what I think they are picking up on are the deviations of true emotions,” O’Sullivan tells WebMD.
While an average person might not know what it is he’s seeing when he thinks someone isn’t being honest and attribute his suspicion to instinct, a scientist would be able to pinpoint it exactly — which leads us to tip no. 6.

Tip No. 6: Watch for Microexpressions
When Joe Schmo has a gut feeling, Paul Ekman, a renowned expert in lie detection, sees microexpressions.
“A microexpression is a very brief expression, usually about a 25th of a second, that is always a concealed emotion,” says Ekman, PhD, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of California Medical School in San Francisco.
So when a person is acting happy, but in actuality is really upset about something, for instance, his true emotion will be revealed in a subconscious flash of anger on his face. Whether the concealed emotion is fear, anger, happiness, or jealousy, that feeling will appear on the face in the blink of an eye. The trick is to see it.
“Almost everyone — 99% of those we’ve tested in about 10,000 people — won’t see them,” says Ekman. “But it can be taught.”
In fact, in less than an hour, the average person can learn to see microexpressions.

Tip No. 7: Look for Contradictions

“The general rule is anything that a person does with their voice or their gesture that doesn’t fit the words they are saying can indicate a lie,” says Ekman. “For example, this is going to sound amazing, but it is true. Sometimes when people are lying and saying, ‘Yes, she’s the one that took the money,’ they will without knowing it make a slight head shake ‘no.’ That’s a gesture and it completely contradicts what they’re saying in words.”
These contradictions, explains Ekman, can be between the voice and the words, the gesture and the voice, the gesture and the words, or the face and the words.
“It’s some aspect of demeanor that is contradicting another aspect,” Ekman tells WebMD.

Tip No. 8: A Sense of Unease
“When someone isn’t making eye contact and that’s against how they normally act, it can mean they’re not being honest,” says Jenn Berman, PhD, a psychologist in private practice. “They look away, they’re sweating, they look uneasy … anything that isn’t normal and indicates anxiety.”

Tip No. 9: Too Much Detail
“When you say to someone, ‘Oh, where were you?’ and they say, ‘I went to the store and I needed to get eggs and milk and sugar and I almost hit a dog so I had to go slow,’ and on and on, they’re giving you too much detail,” says Berman.
Too much detail could mean they’ve put a lot of thought into how they’re going to get out of a situation and they’ve crafted a complicated lie as a solution.

Tip No. 10: Don’t Ignore the Truth
“It’s more important to recognize when someone is telling the truth than telling a lie because people can look like they’re lying but be telling truth,” says Newberry.
While it sounds confusing, finding the truth buried under a lie can sometimes help find the answer to an important question: Why is a person lying?
These 10 truth tips, experts agree, all help detect deception. What they don’t do is tell you why a person is lying and what the lie means.
“Microexpressions don’t tell you the reason,” says Ekman. “They just tell you what the concealed emotion is and that there is an emotion being concealed.”
When you think someone is lying, you have to either know the person well enough to understand why he or she might lie, or be a people expert.
“You can see a microexpression, but you have to have more social-emotional intelligence on people to use it accurately,” says O’Sullivan. “You have to be a good judge of people to understand what it means.”

Extra Tip: Be Trusting
“In general we have a choice about which stance we take in life,” says Ekman. “If we take a suspicious stance life is not going to be too pleasant, but we won’t get misled very often. If we take a trusting stance, life is going to be a lot more pleasant but sometimes we are going to be taken in. As a parent or a friend, you’re much better off being trusting rather than looking for lies all the time.”

Israel : The main problem in the middle east

January 6, 2009

The recent attack on gaza by Israel is yet another chapter in the UN’s history impotency as a world police. They have failed to stop the unjustified attack on Iraq by the US and and then in lebanon by Israel and now in Gaza. Surprisingly, it is totally unable to do anything to help in any armed conflicts involving african or middle-eastern nations.

The needless loss of civilian life and the untold destruction of civilian property such as schools, mosques and hospitals that the Israel’s  claim either as collateral damage or are being used by militants is laughable because it seems there are more collateral damage and damage to suspected military outposts than there is objective damage. The result is an unacceptably large proportion of civilian casualty.

Already the civilian populaion was under siege by the Israelis since Hamas came to power. The legitimacy of the Hamas’ democratic victory was never recognised by the very proponent of democracy itself. Hamas was isolated and shunned and demonised as a terrorist organisation that had the support of the majority of the Gazan Palestinians. So much for the much vaunted democratic ideals that the west claims to uphold.

There was practically no dialogue with the Hamas government and nothing is known about how the flimsy strip of land at the edge of the mediterranean sea has managed to subsist half a million people is indeed a miraculous mystery. The 6 month ceasefire was not siezed by the west to renegotiate any peace deals between the warring parties. The power-brokers literally sat through the whole window of opportunity.

We have seen so much of coverage given to the Israeli views and their reasons for the military assault on Gaza and yet practically no views were sought from the other side of the conflict. It makes it invitingly easy to assume that the Hamas rockets were inteneded to kill Israelis for no apparent reason other than to purely terrorise the innocent Israeli public reconfirming Hamas’ Terrorist label. But none is mentioned about the Israeli settlement expansion over Palestinian lands, unprovoked assassinations of Hamas leaders, sequestration of rich arable Palestinian lands, restricting movements of the palestinian people even if it is necessary for their livelihood. This on top of 60 years of occupation of Palestinian lands in contravention of UN resolutions. And yet the Israelis wonder why Hamas rockets are still terrorising them.  The current military assault by the Israelis on Gaza is akin to killing a fly with a sledgehammer. The Israeli response, though calculated, is grossly and unproportionally violent in gross disregard of innocent lives.
Their refusal to negotiate with hamas and then blame Hamas for the war is an insult to the intelligence of the world community. We can see what they do and that the Isralis are finding it hard to put up a successful media campaign despite getting much help from it’s allied networks of the west such as CNN and fox news routinely ignoring Palestinian views.

It’s about time the African and Middle eastern nations withdraw their memberships from the UN and form their own group that is committed to solve their own problems. Israel has time and again disregarded international consensus to solve it’s own problems unilaterally via military means. They are the problem in the middle east and they are the ones who need to be stopped

The muslims in general condemn israeli action and are sympathetic towards the palestinians as well as hamas. They tend to believe that hamas firing of the rockets is a reaction against years of oppression by the israeli government. None of the malays I have discussed about this have any empathy for the israelis. I believe the israeli excuse which is the hamas rockets being fired into israel is like a person disturbing a bee hive and then killing the bees for stinging him. The equation is simple, The israeli must stop their seige on palestinian lands first to ensure no rockets come their way. Them blaming hamas for the current debacle is an insult to any discerning person.

This gaza offensive not only sabotages any ongoing peace negotiations but will also radicalise moderates into extremist camps. The israeli objective to totally neutralise palestinian fire power by destruction of palestinian civil and government infrastructure as well as the militant hideouts works in the opposite direction. Any resulting peace via such violent means is only temporary. The seething anger of such humiliation of palestinians will continue to stoke their anger as more moderates even people like mahmoud abbas may cease to work with the ongoing peace process. The wider damage of this is far reaching. This will create more anger and give sympathy, legitimacy, grounds, support and rationalisation for terrorist activities across the islamic world. This irresponsible israeli action sabotages everyone.

The Israelis should not be allowed to conduct violent acts unilaterally with impunity as it has far reaching consequences for ongoing efforts against terrorist activities and co-operation from muslim nations.

The Devil

August 26, 2008

Black Light

 

I am the legitimate child of fire and sin

I am the unheard whisper behind an innocent grin

 

I am the mystical tempter of the Garden of Eden

I am the nameless seducer of a fruit forbidden

 

I am the skewed logic of every good sense

I am the corruption in every pure essence

 

I am the righter of every conscious wrong

I am the author of every liars melodious song

 

I am the unrest after every ominous dream

I am the unseen hand in a deceptive scheme

 

I am the scented air in a haters breath

I Choreograph the steps to every unkind death

 

I am the aching beauty in every vixen’s face

I am the coldest sweat in every morbid embrace

 

I am the safe lair of every plotter’s thought

I am the truest idol of every Unholy God

 

I am the guardian of every faustian pact

I am the magician who changes fiction to fact

 

I am the subtle soul of every treacherous cheat

I am the blackest blood in every murderous heartbeat

 

I am the cryptic code in every evil seed

I am the beautifier of every deadly deed

 

I dance to the thundering emptiness of wicked minds

I am the pleasing intoxication in every wine

 

I am the shadow encompassing every light

I am the fabulous wronger of every right

 

I am the loving father of all fallen angels

I am the numinous tempter of all holy strangers

 

I am the visible void in every heartless breast

I am the fairest umpire of every evil contest

 

I dragged your father from heaven to earth

And have been your faceless friend ever since your birth

 

 

Iqbaldinho

26 Aug 2008

How to develop charisma and self esteem

April 26, 2008

 

This article is taken wholesale from http://www.submityourarticle.com/articles/Peter-Dobler-427/self-esteem-2002.php.

I found it interesting that paying attention and treating others like they are very important will attract the same towards you. In short if you want self esteem – give others just that.

10 tips to improve your self esteem

Striving to improve our self esteem is on everybody’s mind. It doesn’t matter if you actively pursue this goal or you subconsciously working on improving your self esteem. The problem with this is that you really don’t know exactly what you want to improve. You’re acting intuitively on external signals.

Do you know how to improve your self esteem? Probably not. To make it a little bit easier for you and to achieve your goals quicker I put together 10 tips that you can utilize right away.

1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.

2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.

3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.

4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tent to be more successful in their career.

5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You’ll be amazed how this works.)

6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.

7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person’s name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation.

8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice…

9. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself. Are you responding to what may be going on in his or her life? Don’t filter out bad news. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Be caring.

10. Stay “in the moment.” Don’t mentally cut off the other person. Don’t reload while he or she is speaking. What this means is that you need to focus on the other person 100% during a conversation. Anything less is considered rude.

Next time you meet somebody new look out for these behaviors. Put a mental checkmark on the each of the 10 tips and see how well this person scored. Chances are that the person scored very high if you tent to like her/him. On the contraire the person probably scored low if you don’t seem to connect.

The more you practice the more likely you will create a positive aura which is commonly known as charisma. To step up to become a charismatic personality it takes more than just these 10 tips.

Creating a positive aura will benefit you in every thing you do. You will create a warmer ambience with your family. You will be more successful in your career. Even while trying to meet a partner of the opposite sex you will notice a difference on how people perceive you.

Unfortunately a small article can’t do justice on the wide spectrum of creating a positive aura and developing a charismatic personality. You will get the complete picture and step by step explanations in Race Kale’s new book “The Power of Charisma”.

 


Israel Rated World’s Sixth-Largest Nuclear Power

November 12, 2007

The west, namely The US, Britain and France has no business poking it’s nose into North Korean and Iranian internal affairs.

Firstly they are not honest brokers and their mediation efforts in the middle east is only about their own economic interests (read : oil) and the interests of Israel. Their motives are thus suspect.

Secondly, the political climate of late in the west has become staunchly right wing, anti-Islamic and brazenly racist.

Thirdly they practice double standards when imposing the law on some while conveniently ignoring the atrocities of others. Such as ignoring India’s pursuit of nuclear armament while crying foul over Iran and North Korea.

 Fourthly, these countries routinely use (or abuse) their power in the UN, that is unfairly and disproportionately tilted in favour of western countries anyway, to push their own countries political agendas. Asians form 61% of the world’s population, there is only one permanent seat in the UN’s security council allocated for us – which is represented by China. While Europeans and Americans form a paltry 12% of the world population. And yet the west occupies 80% of the security council’s permanent seats with no representation of the Africans nor of the Latin Americans.

The gross under-representation of the non-western world in the UN is a cause for concern because the UN then becomes the tool of abuse of power of the world’s dominant powers (read : the west)

 We move in this day and age with our eyes wide shut ignoring the danger posed by Israel, the human rights atrocities by tyrants, Aids and other epidemic, poverty, enironmental depradation, human moral degradation etc etc.. and kill innocent people wantonly spending billions of dollars in wars that is not justified in Iraq and Afganistan. If this is so-called the age of enlightenment, by god I don’t even want to know the definition of darkness.

Taken from rense.com
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History repeats itself: a Middle Eastern country launches its own nuclear program. The international community suspects it is a cover for building atomic weapons. The United States calls for the country’s nuclear sites to be inspected. Another government urges the country to scrap its nuclear plans. It is answered by defiant boasts that the nation’s sovereignty will not be compromised.
The country in question is not Iran in 2006, but Israel in 1969. The current dispute over Iran’s nuclear program has shocking parallels with the tensions sparked off by Israel’s attempts to acquire the nuclear bomb in the 60s. The only major difference is that the U.S. decided at the time not to curb the Israeli nuclear program. Recently declassified documents reveal that the Nixon administration reached a secret understanding with the Israelis in 1969 that allowed them to pursue their nuclear program as long as they maintain a policy of deliberate ambiguity.
In fact, this understanding paved the way for Israel, the 4th largest military power in the world, to be the only nuclear power in the Middle East and the world’s sixth country to acquire atomic weapons, a title its government has never admitted nor denied, according to an article on AFP. Despite its policy of ambiguity, Israel’s nuclear arsenal is estimated between 200 and 300 warheads. According to Eldridge, editor in chief of Jane’s Nuclear, Biological and Chemical Defense, this estimate “is based on the production capacity of the country’s reactors.”
Meanwhile, the International Institute of Strategic Studies estimates the number of warheads that Israel possesses as being “up to 200”. And the Nuclear Threat Initiative, a U.S. advocacy group co-founded by Ted Turner, the founder of CNN and a former senator, believes that Israel’s arsenal “is comparable in quality and quantity to that of France and the United Kingdom.”
With French assistance, Israel built a nuclear weapons facility at Dimona in the Negev desert in 1958. The Dimona site has a plutonium/tritium production reactor, an underground chemical separation plant, and nuclear component fabrication facilities. In the early years of its nuclear program, Israel may have used French testing data to confirm its own weapon designs. Moreover, recently declassified British documents show that Britain helped Israel in making its nuclear bomb forty years ago, when it sold the Jewish state 20 tonnes of heavy water, a key substance for the production of atomic bombs. Experts suggest that the Israeli Defense Forces had their first nuclear weapons ready before the Six-Day War.
In 1986, Mordechai Vanunu, a former technician at Dimona, revealed to the media evidence that Israel possessed and produced nuclear weapons. At the time of Vanunu’s arrest, The Times reported that Israel had material for approximately 20 hydrogen bombs and 200 fission bombs.
According to AFP, an unspecified number of ground-to-ground missiles, comprising short range Jericho 1 and medium range Jericho 2 missiles, forms Israel’s strategic force. At the end of the 1990s, the Jewish state also acquired three diesel-powered, Dolphin-class submarines, capable of launching nuclear-armed cruise missiles. Moreover, the Washington Post recently reported that Israel has succeeded in modifying U.S.-made cruise missiles capable of carrying nuclear warheads to be launched from submarines.
Unlike Iran and North Korea, Israel has never signed the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty, designed to prevent the global spread of nuclear weapons. As a result, it is not subject to inspections and the threat of sanctions by the United Nations nuclear watchdog, the International Atomic Energy Agency (IAEA), which has repeatedly asked Israel to give up its secret nuclear arsenal to avoid an arms race in the Middle East.
U.S. intelligence agencies often omit Israel from semiannual reports to Congress identifying countries developing weapons of mass destruction to protect the Jewish state from any economic or military sanctions. On the other hand, the U.S. is leading an international campaign against Iran over its nuclear program, which Tehran insists is for generating power.
Israel also stepped up rhetoric against Iran. Deputy Prime Minister Shimon Peres warned on Monday that Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, who has called for Israel to be wiped off the map, should bear in mind that his own country could also be destroyed.
Although Peres didn’t say who should attack Iran, he implied that military action should be led by the U.S., pointing to the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq.
The U.S. is striving to get a UN Security Council resolution demanding the Islamic Republic to halt uranium enrichment activities. But the truth is that Tehran hasn’t violated the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty (NPT) or any other international obligations.
“Let me remind everybody that nothing Iran is accused of doing is illegal,” said Scott Ritter, the former UN weapons inspector who challenged the Bush administration’s drive to Iraq War. “We’re condemning Iran for doing that which is permitted under a treaty which it has signed and entered into in force, and has UN inspectors on the ground verifying Iranian compliance.”
It is obvious that Israel, which already possesses nuclear weapons, poses danger to Middle East stability. The U.S.–the only nation to have ever used nuclear weapons against human beings– should bear in mind this fact before it presses Tehran over its nuclear ambitions. Washington’s refusal to consider Iran’s proposal to make the Middle East a nuclear-free zone shows what all the U.S. hype about Iran’s nuclear program is really about. It simply doesn’t want to eliminate nuclear weapons in the Middle East as long as they remain in the hands of an ally.

Iran President Faces Public Dressing Down

September 27, 2007

The Ugly American Strikes Again. Columbia University president Lee Bollinger made allegations against the Iranian president while conveniently ignoring the failures, treachery and cruelty of his own government. He also almost turned the session dedicated to a speech from the Iranian President into one of his own sessions. If his agenda was about free speech, civil liberties  and human rights he should also have talked about Abu Ghraib, the wanton destruction of Iraq, Haditha, the Extraordinary resditions by Us secret services, broad wire tappings of the US citizenry, Guantanamo prison, homeland security act, racial profiling  and the list goes on. Who knows what more is to come. His accusations against Mr Ahmadinejad were thus by-and-large a matter of bigoted personal opinion than it was a reasonable acedemic comment worthy of scrutiny.

Who says right wing fascism is dead – Bollinger is a testament to the fact that fascism is still alive and kicking.

As bizzarre as it seems Mr Bollinger turned this dignified session into a public dressing down of a guest and a smeared the reputation of his guest and robbed the everyone a chance for an objective assessment of truth. This is the worst of American society.

It could have been used for lively civil exchanges and for US citizens to know more about Iran. In the end Bigotry and hatred prevailed. Mr Lee could have used this session to build bridges. But he burned what was left of it. Mr Lee Bollinger turned out to be a xenophobe in tuxedos oozing of pseudo academic arrogance. Bollingers sharp distaste for his guest was a testament to the much pervasive American ugliness and arrogance only matched by their equally repugnant bigotry. Watching the whole thing in youtube I could feel the rightwing political pressure on Bollinger’s face to publicly humiliate a guest. If the humiliation did not happen I think Bollinger would be forced to vacate his job the very next day by right wing Jewish lobbying.

Mr Bollinger, all the negative comments you made against a dignified guest speaks volumes of your own upbringing. You displayed the worst of the American culture when you could have easily done the reverse. You make various uncalled for allegations against your guest. But you should look at yourself in the mirror and see for yourself what a sly bastard you turned out to be to against your own guest after allowing for Mr Ahmedinajad to speak. You could have spoken about bush in the same derogatory terms and it would not have been further from the truth. You almost turn this diginified session into a mud slinging session. Thank God The Iranian President mantained his composure. Maybe you could have learnt a lesson or two from your guest. I hope one day you will be served your just desserts for the treachery you committed.

 All I can say is: what a terrible waste of a fabulous opportunity to showcase the beauty of American culture and civility when it was only used to show how ugly America is. And people still wonder why Muslims love to hate America?