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You live by Logic & Reason? LOL! You have no Idea

April 15, 2013

There is no such thing as a belief based entirely on logical reasoning. Its a simple fact that the human mind though, wonderfully complex and powerful, is still ill-equipped and incapable of apprehending truth in its absolute naked glory.

Give me a guy who claims to follow logic and reason religiously and I’ll turn him into a heretical intellectual hypocrite in a minute. (Which also brings us to another question: is being intelligent and learned means being logical and rational about the way we approach our belief?) Thus we are all forced to commit to our prejudices (the ignorant or emotional) or assumptions in answering to ourselves the fundamental questions – which is in every sense intellectual heresy. Pure rationalist or logical thought is an ideal unavailable to the human mind because of its inherent inability to completely grasp fundamental concepts of cosmology, and ontology. However it is able to imagine – but that is not enough to answer the tough questions.

The real question is are we consistent in our philosophies and ideas when we when we make those assumptions be it secular or religious – is it reasonable? Is it necessary? Its a matter of committing the least errors and being right most number of times in general. But it is human nature that once it commits itself to a certain path there will be many unanswered questions that we stumble upon for which we are at a lost to explain because it does not appeal to logic and reason.

One interesting point in question here is the big bang theory which was proven by electromagnetic radiation analysis. This was traced back to the point of singularity and what happened at the exact point and what existed before it. But that is not all – the real conundrum here is that this primordial cosmic explosion not only created space and the elements therein, it also created time. We don’t even have a proper definition or explanation for time. So if this is true – and I think it is – when we talk about what existed before the big bang what are we really talking about? Because time was never a factor before time was created!!  So is it really a sequence of causal events? But if time was not there what was the measure of that sequence? What is sequence?

Thus it is impossible to achieve pure logic and pure reason because it assumes forth from pure truth which can never be known.

As such No one can claim to be above the other because no one knows where they stand in the first place and as such truth cannot be known – we don’t know what (ideas and the minds that hold them) is above or what is below. But we know one thing – we are ignorant and we have no way of knowing what we know is the truth because our understanding is limited by our mortal senses. We are simply not equipped to do know that. We also know that those who have knowledge and hold and process it with humility, sincerity and rigid honesty to the self and others are the truly learned who are on the right track to knowing and are nearest to truth and are a cut above the rest. Even to know the level of our own ignorance is impossible – if we don’t even know how wrong can we be, isn’t it just plain haughty arrogance to even proceed to measure how right we are? When the foundations of knowledge are weak, when reason cannot with absolute certainty encompass the knowledge that we hold, then sincere searching inquisitiveness, a curious mind thirsting to know and utter humility is the only way to go. We have to know what we are talking about before we actually talk about it to others to justify our stand on what we believe in.

We always make the mistake of giving credence to intellectual charlatans who appeal to our prejudices and whose works support our own assumptions thereby perpetuating our own false knowledge. Suspension of judgment or not commiting oneself to any theory, hypotheses or belief because truth cannot be known is a failure in human purpose – a hedonistic intellectual laziness that contributes in the negation of the human spirit. To partially borrow a military jingle, we are born to know who we and where we come from and what we are doing here where we are headed for. To limit our purpose to the four corners of the physical world is to justify the denial of the human spirit, cheapen the human intellectual capacity and blaspheme the purpose of our origin – for it is highly improbable that we are here by chance in a purposeless universe that happened to exist by some freakish, random cosmological explosion.

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MICHAEL JACKSON AND THE CORPORATE MADNESS

October 13, 2009

My Billie Jean Performance_Smallest

Get relief from the coporate madness.  Go mad and do something outrageous. Fight fire with fire.

As we go on and on with the drudgery of our daily grind, we tend to be so absorbed into what we do at work that we forget that work is just a means to an end – not an end in itself. Unless of course you are a volunteer in a not-for-profit organisation that is committed to serve the needs of society. The problem with the corporate world is its capitalist roots where greed is a legitimate pursuit which in turn comes back to serve the survival of the system itself.

The way the corporate world is structured – a cold, unforgiving, stiff pressure-cooker environment wrapped in a pleasant neat and compartmentalised matrix bathed in blinding flourescent lights. The kind that imresses upon you so much that it tends to hang on to you wherever you go till you get desensitised to the nightmare that you call work. Most of the time you get a small part to play in the big picture – sort of like a jigsaw piece. Over time you tend to lose the forest for the trees and develop tunnel vision where you lose your sense of direction, lose the meaning of your being there in the first place – which is to do something meaningful by the way. And finally you start losing your mind way before you start losing your hair. And then you go into this drunken state of zombie-ness where your main priorities is to pass the buck and clear as many files from your table so that you can have some time for yourself to think about your problems that you don’t really have.

The truth is, the files never get cleared and you get desperate day after day, deadline after dealine, meeting after meeting until you just go with the flow of the corporate river and develop some nifty ability to dodge the bullets and knives come your way to haunt you for your corporate sins of old. You learn about the best carpets to sweep your corporate dirt under, the best holes to bury your undischarged corporate responsibilities from prying eyes. Once in a while you succumb to stealing an hour or two to surf the net or do your personal stuff or even steal from your office – without a whiff of guilt.

And you try ways and means to escape the daily drudgery but you can’t. The you start managing the drudgery by just concentrating on only your area of work while giving excuses for the rest. Then you realise that you can even go one further by passing the buck to others.

They call it “tai chi” in chinese – a skill that is a fine art in the corporate context wher you gracefully push your work and its responsibilities out of your purview. You now go into survival mode and use the newbies to run your show and maybe even do your personal errands. That is until they find out its not their job – but by which time it’ll be too late for them.

Congratulations, you are now a corporate caricature that Scott Adams so deftly portrays in his comic strips. You get lost in your own world and move about in sober drunkenness. You think you are in control of your faculties but not realising that the system has overtaken you and has started subsuming your existence into just another appendage to it’s numerous tentacles.

It sucks dry the very life in your personality and the very humanity in your character to become a flat one-dimensional object the existence of which is only a teensy weensy bit more than the existence of your office furniture in your cubicle. You lose your sense of humour together with your personality and become this dry one-dimensional corporate zombie to whom laughter is an alien experience and totally out of place in the office, you develop a nervous twitch and become stiff in your movements  and think you are cool. You develop a blankness in your face which is a reflection of the state of your mind.

So something must happen to release – sort of like an explosion – to release you from this pressure that you didn’t know existed in the first place. Weekends never work beacuse they come to an end and the mondays dangle over your heads like a guillotine that is slowly descending as the weekend comes to a close. So the release is never full and is never really there because the fear is always there no matter how many bottles you down at a corporate pub and lose yourself in a glass of strong drink to find a way out of your pain that you can’t really feel.

As I was sinking into that corporate quicksand, there came an opportunity to go mad. What is mad in the corporate world mind you is sanity for the people of real world – and the bulk of this group are made of sages and children in a world gone mad and greedy.

I seized it and went before an odd corporate crowd of 200 and put my three days worth of practicing of the Michael Jackson’s Billie Jean to the smooth carpeted floor of the Sheraton Ball Room. I mean I had to. Well, how often do you get to grab your crotch in front of your top bosses and still expect to have a day job turn up to the next day? This in my view is an excellent opportunity to showcase all you have, release yourself in the most un-artistic way and get one up your colleagues and bosses while getting an applause!

What I didn’t expect is the complete release from the pressure after my five minutes of crappy performance. I decided not to have any shame for that moment and as the minutes ticked by I got more audacious and I felt exorcised of this corporate demon that had consumed me for the longest time. It felt good and I’m thankful for that guy who did the Elvis who said that this is his real self and in work he performs. And he is known as the crazy guy! Now I realise he could’t be any saner.

Well my only regret is that I didn’t take off & throw the Jacket and rip my t-shirt off. Maybe I’ll do that the next time cos this release is just like crack-cocaine – the dosage needs to be heavier with each successive fix to get the same amount of high

Release yourself. DO somehing crazy. Like the NatGeo Advert Goes – “When was the last time you did something for the first time?” But I hope it does’nt turn out to be the graveyard of the many firsts that I did for the last time! Now I know, Small time performers have it good (and maybe not the money) because they don’t get embroiled in the muck of showbiz.

THANK GOD FOR MICHAEL AND ELVIS . God bless them.

Living The Lie

August 10, 2009

Don’t be a tourist in my reality
For I go from here to all eternity
A state of nothingness is not to be
And I search this cage for a door to be free
Don’t be fooled by how I appear
For the truth will disappoint u my dear
Feelings that are felt deep inside
Are realised only through love and it’s light
So see not my truth in the flesh alone
But feel me all the way in your bone
I’m looking for something different behind that face
And you are smiling, thinking “what a waste”
It’s easy to take the easy path and live all the lies
And realise too late the truth before you close your eyes
But the reality is nothing but pain.
Against which my mind holds back and refrains
It’s an irony the lord made truth but he made it so hard to bear
As I carry on running away from it’s steely stare….

 

Iqbaldinho

30/6/2003

Do you sell just Products or do you sell experiences?

May 16, 2009

(this is a stream of consciousness, not a structured essay)

An Omnia is a product an Iphone is an experience,

A Rexona bodyspray is a product a Chanel No. 5 is an experience

A Toyota is a product a Ferrari is an experience

Hilton Hotel  is a product an Al-Burj is an experience

A Giodano is a product an Armani is an experience

What’s the difference between a good company and a great company? Good companies sell great products, great companies make great experiences happen. The product is the reason for companies that just sell products. For companies that sell experiences the product is an excuse.
Someone said a company that exists just to make profits is a poor form of business.
No matter how Richard Branson praises the iphone or gloats it’s features that are already available in the market – people are still going to buy it regardless. The cool features and other incoherent babbles of Branson will not make any difference to an iphoneophile. It’s almost like an evangelist talking to a bunch of Christians – the content matters little they already know what they want to hear. That’s why the bible, when truely followed will talk of a different religion very alien to the anglo-saxon versions.

When we use a product, it is dispensable and replaceable. There are real alternatives to what you sell you may distinguish your product from the competition for all you care, at the end of the day your strivings are for the bottomline.

An experience is indispensable and irreplaceable. Once felt, the human soul yearns for it and seeks to perpetuate the moment. It touches the most deepest part of our very humanity. Branson knows the soul of branding and capitalizes on it – it’s a little more than just niche marketing. It’s understanding what moves the human soul and creating vehicles that give such an experience. And in that process he hits pay dirt as he always had. While the product notwithstanding the brand is replaceable, the apple experience is not.

People who use a windows PC use it for a practical reason. People who use the mac use it because they love it despite being in the minority and having major compatibility problems with the majority of the computing world
Bill Gates and the president of General Motors have met for lunch, and Bill is going on and on about computer technology. “If automotive technology had kept pace with computer technology over the past few decades, you would now be driving a V-32 instead of a V-8, and it would have a top speed of 10,000 miles per hour,” says Gates. “Or, you could have an economy car that weighs 30 pounds and gets a thousand miles to a gallon of gas. In either case, the sticker price of a new car would be less than $50. Why haven’t you guys kept up?”
The president of GM smiles and says, “Because the federal government won’t let us build cars that crash four times a day.”

Given the limitations of technology and human intelligence to harness it to the things that we make for ourselves, efficiency and effectiveness of service of a product goes only so far – after which we plunge into the infinitude of the fuzzy world of aesthetics.

The primary reason for Nokia to become the number one seller of phones is it’s pioneering in phones that are more customizable and personalisable. From the phone covers’ colours and designs and the ring-tones right down to the wall paper and user interface. It was a such revolution and moved large swathes of population towards it’s products that threw it’s rival Erricsson into near bankruptcy before being saved by Sony. To be able to personalize a product is an emotional affair and that was the key to Nokia’s success – and they achieved through innovation and creativity. It set a new standard and redefined role of mobile phones in human affairs to such an extent that they pre-occupy the length and breadth of our lives.

In a One Planet Programme by BBC World Service broadcast on 30th April 2009, Mike Williams was interviewing the bosses of 3 car companies at a Geneva Motor Show in March ‘09. Among them were bigwigs from Audi, Totota and Bently (I forget their names).

As cars are a major source of greenhouse gas emissions, it has become an issue for the green movement to tackle the issue of global warming with increasing pressure for cars to be built more eco-friendly. But it seems there is no urgency given to the matter with governments around the world giving token commitments to substantiate their lip services in the matter of green transport systems. The politicians themselves have failed to set an example as they zip about in their gas guzzlers.

Williams met the three men

While the other two seemed committed and concerned about going green with their plans for a green future, Stefan Segal of Chrysler was exquisitely unapologetic as he spoke with the passion of a disinterested realist in a “welcome to-the-real-world” sort of drone.

Williams asked : What Kind of cars are you going to make in the future Stefan?
Stefan : (we will be making) for sure emotional cars, I think at the end of the day we will still buy our cars with our heart and not our brain.
W : Is that wise do you think?
S : (sigh) you know, is it wise to fall in love?

That killed me. When you sell experiences people love you for it even though you may be a bastard. Cars are a personal affair for us and to simply call people let go of this love affair and to commit ourselves to the ethics of environmentalism is simply too much. That’s the reality that people feel but will never admit it because we all want to be on the side of political correctness.

You tell the environmentalist to give up jetsetting, or give up his fuel-efficient car – it’s inescapable. The environmentalists must touch the people in a way that gives them a good experience being environmentally conscientious. Rather than selling an environmental message everyone already knows that just makes everyone feel guilty, and at the end of the day hate them for it, they should concentrate on selling the experience of being environmentally conscientious. That’s the tough part.

The crux of the matter? If your product merely fills a need or just satisfies a utility, then people don’t care where it comes from they will change loyalties the moment they get a cheaper alternative. This is not the case if a product appeals to an individual’s emotions

Why is emotional appeal of a product so very important? Emotions are irrational visceral affections that make us humans – something that distinguishes us from the other beings. It is a cold cold world if we only make products to serve a utilitarian function. Products that appeal to our emotions touch our raw human essence in a way that will evoke a catharsis within our deepest unknown voids of our soul from which emanates the very essence of our humanity – that for some strange reason, people find it liberating. It’s like men looking at boobs and buns all day and yet are never bored with it. Why? Because the product is a creature that is made in such a way as to appeal to our innermost senses – an appeal that is hardwired in us so deep that we don’t have an inkling why we behave that way. We’ll never get bored with that.

Someone said People will forget what you said or what you did. But the will never for get how you made them feel.

An emotion is irrational. The rationalization will come after the fact to acquiesce a guilt or fill a void that seeks a reason.

“This Nokia phone has a 5 megapixel camera” you say – but so does several other phones of the same genre. The real reason you bought it was perhaps the fact that it was a sliding phone or you could wrap your fingers around it with your fingertips barely touching your thumb– it just felt good that way. Oh and it comes with a good camera too.

The fact is people need a psychological mechanism to deal with the inner voids in their lives. But to accomplish that they need something tangible and worldly to act as a medium to achieve that abstract state of bliss.

In religion we need idols except maybe for the monk who sold his Ferrari. He felt a need to achieve a state of quiet bliss by letting go because he had found a better product – Buddhism. The Ferrari experience could not sustain itself in the long run.

Companies that merely sell products as opposed to those that sell an experience – the difference is immense. To create products that appeal to human emotions vs those that merely fill a need. That’s the difference between an iphone and a samsung omnia, between a Toyota and a Ferrari.
The Samsung has better features and it was created to rival the iphone. Alas the iphone truly stood out because it was an iphone.
The practical benefits and the economic wisdom (read: overpriced) of owning an iphone is an overzealous excuse to justify buying something that may not be as good as that of it’s closest rival. But people still buy it. The same logic goes for a ferrari vs a toyota. Ferrari does not sell cars – the car is merely a vehicle (no pun intended) to experience the bliss of the ferrari experience. You don’t buy a ferrari to get you from point a to point b. That’s a sin. You want to experience the journey, the destination is just a consequential side effect. The destination was merely an excuse to feel a Ferrari while for a toyota the destination is the reason for you to drive it.

How do you quantify an experience ? Dare i? Sex is an experience – but for the prostitute its a product – for her client they want an experience but end up with a cheap high that makes them more frustrated. The best experience of sex is between lovers – and that no money can buy. So knowing this, the prostitutes that command the highest salary usually sell an experience specifically tailored to suit a niche. Starbucks don’t sell coffee Zouk dosen’t sell $1 soft drinks at for $13- they sell the experience of drinking coffee, they sell the experience of clubbing – why else would people pay $4.90 for a cuppa? The drinks are just the props or a vehicle to take you on that experience, the ambience, the high. Whatever
People will forget the product but they will remember the experience. Because an experience is more visceral – and being something that touches one deeply, people tend to associate the abstractions of their experience with the specific tangible product. It’s easier that way. Products such as these tend to capitalise on certain human tendencies, characteristics or psyches and specifically tailor an experience compressed into a specific product that somehow or rather creates a state of mind that they will never get from another similar product

You don’t do love,
You don’t do sex
You don’t do friendship

You don’t do kisses

You don’t do the work of a father
All these are felt deep within – almost a human instinct expressed within human-social dynamics
The things that we do as a result of such experiences is the emotional by-product of that which was viscerally felt.
If you can do that, my friend – you have a successful product.

The Devil

August 26, 2008

Black Light

 

I am the legitimate child of fire and sin

I am the unheard whisper behind an innocent grin

 

I am the mystical tempter of the Garden of Eden

I am the nameless seducer of a fruit forbidden

 

I am the skewed logic of every good sense

I am the corruption in every pure essence

 

I am the righter of every conscious wrong

I am the author of every liars melodious song

 

I am the unrest after every ominous dream

I am the unseen hand in a deceptive scheme

 

I am the scented air in a haters breath

I Choreograph the steps to every unkind death

 

I am the aching beauty in every vixen’s face

I am the coldest sweat in every morbid embrace

 

I am the safe lair of every plotter’s thought

I am the truest idol of every Unholy God

 

I am the guardian of every faustian pact

I am the magician who changes fiction to fact

 

I am the subtle soul of every treacherous cheat

I am the blackest blood in every murderous heartbeat

 

I am the cryptic code in every evil seed

I am the beautifier of every deadly deed

 

I dance to the thundering emptiness of wicked minds

I am the pleasing intoxication in every wine

 

I am the shadow encompassing every light

I am the fabulous wronger of every right

 

I am the loving father of all fallen angels

I am the numinous tempter of all holy strangers

 

I am the visible void in every heartless breast

I am the fairest umpire of every evil contest

 

I dragged your father from heaven to earth

And have been your faceless friend ever since your birth

 

 

Iqbaldinho

26 Aug 2008

Sex Change operations : IT’S IN THE GENES STUPID

August 21, 2008

The inane logic of modern jurisprudence

 

Are there legal mechanisms to deal with anomalies produced by the ever changing realities of life? Recently a 34 year old “man”, Thomas Beatty,  from USA, Oregon, gave birth to a baby via artificial insemination. His female partner was unable to produce any offspring “he” decided to spring into action. As recently as the 1980s, human attributes such as sex and race are immutable. But that has all changed with the law now recognising sex change operations made via approved means as valid.

 

Now the problem is if the woman transforms into a “man”, and decides to give birth, it exposes some flaws in our legal philosophy of recognising such perverted social tendencies that still forms a minority within a small minority in our societies.  At the moment there is no legal mechanism to properly deal with such anomalies.

 

If a legal male gives birth –will the birth certificate then reflect the father as the one who gave birth? It doesn’t sound right from the start – the law on this needs a re-think – all the way to the drawing board because to deal with the unforeseen anomalies, on an ad hoc basis, produced as a result recognising something that is largely unacceptable and that which flies in the face of hard practical realities or even scoffed at in our society (here in Singapore) is not really the way to go.

 

In Singapore the gender change sought by persons undergoing sex change operations done via approved means enjoy full legal recognition. The folly of the authorities everywhere is in their failure in understanding of the simple fact  that gender in human beings is something more visceral than their cosmetic physiological alteration would want us to believe.

 

The nature of gender in humans is more in the programming contained within the genes than anything else. This is what creates that fine balance in us in our hormones combined with the psycho-physiological make-up of our bodies that makes us a man or a woman. The fundamental core of our gender is in our genetic make-up. And the authorities should come to such understanding before going free and easy with the law regarding sex change operations.

 

The alteration or addition in sex-change operations, such as artificial breasts and penises, are even non-functioning to begin with. The surgically rendered “vagina” is just a freaking little hole for crying out loud. How on earth does that make a man into a woman?

 

While the person may psychologically feel like the opposite gender, he or she is essentially still the same sex as he or she was before.

 

The authorities may have to face the embarrassing prospect of having to deal with, as they say in computer terminology, an “unhandled error” caused by their folly in being overly eager to recognise some medical procedure still in it’s infancy as a revolutionary technological triumph, that hardly even addresses an iota of an issue of truly being male or female. This freak result is largely due to the fault of the various rights movement originating in the west . And as with all unhandled errors – it exposes the weakness in the underlying program and it ends up screwing up the whole bloody system that treats the ensuing problems in piecemeal fashion while largely ignoring or being oblivious of the underlying fundamental fault.

In this case the “error” at a fundamental level and the implication could go much deeper than we thought. It exposes a flaw in the western philosophy and socio-political thought. The fundamental philosophy of absolute individual freedom of thought and action has brought about a situation where it produced a truly fucked up situation where everybody is supposed to respect every individual’s personal choice, no matter how screwed up the philosophy is, no matter how it screws up the larger society no matter what problem it causes to the various cultures in existence.

 

The force of a responsible democratic society and it’s laws, they believe, will weed out such behaviour to the dustbins of history. But it did not happen because the problem with western democracy is that it failed to anticipate the lopsided exception of lobby groups in the system that wield power and influence that is disproportionate to their number. And as such they are able to influence policy decisions at a political level without really getting into the political hotseats.

 

Trans-gender surgery as transforming one into an opposite sex is no more real than a fake Rolex being a real Rolex. Mere cosmetic similarity does not makee something the real Mcoy. Sex change operations as we see today don’t cause gender transmutations for the simple fact that the sexual organ(s) that went through the knife are non-functional. The issue of human sexual distinction is more visceral than that.

The fact that the law recognises this as real is laughable because it ignores the underlying scientific realities that glaringly screams otherwise.

Democracy : An abject failure for the world

May 21, 2008

I’m no political scientist, but the way I see it by the way the world is moving, democracy as a philosophical movement, as an ideology, as a political mechanism, as a strong base for economics and commerce and as a governing principle for an increasingly interdependent and shrinking world – is an abject failure. The most glaring failure is at the political level where power-hungry and imperial political elitism still exists. Even for America now this holds true. Power is being abused while those in power vehemently ascribe to themselves claim democratic credentials. The sorry state that the world has been since the end of the world wars with unresolved conflicts perpetuated by self-righteous democracies such as the US, Israel, France and the UK.

Democracy is supposed to be a vanguard against political imperialism and corruption, totalitarian tyranny, dictatorial high-handedness, gross official incompetence and a whole host of other political evils that brings humanity to ruins. It is supposed to return dignity to every human being and respect for every individual’s belief. And even though not everyone gets what they want it is supposed to bring about the best solution to the larger society as a whole via clever elicitation of society’s will and earnest administration of society’s wisdom.

In theory it looks as pretty and romantic with it’s platitudinous principles –“power to the people”, “Rule of Law”, “separation of powers”, the highest political master, thus publicly empowered, sworn to lowly service to his people etc. etc. This is beautiful. But the reality is anything but.

Much of the world is in political turmoil and much of it are started and sustained by democracies. So far, instead of vesting the power with the people and empowering them to effect political change through collective will when things go awry, we have those in power clinging on to their powers and using it to perpetuate their political presence and their own personal ideologies and principles in flagrant disregard of the will and wants of the people and the common good. They are hell bent on strengthening their positions as long as they are allowed by the system that they happily hijacked once they came into power. I don’t have to name names the examples are readily available here and now.

The democratic system is a fucking failure because it failed to factor in the motherfucking assholes who deviously slip through the idiot filters and hold the world hostage to their tyranny. The problem of it is that the system assumes those who are elected to power are so elected by carefully calculated exercise common will. This is supposed to allow the people to elect a person who is the best among them. But alas, the common people can be idiotic bigots in large numbers trying to propagate their ideology through threat and force. This will throw the fucking spanner in the democratic works.

Lets face it people tend to be evil, selfish and egocentric when they can get away with it. The flimsy checks and balances has failed to protect the people from an overbearing government.

It has caused much misery to the world especially now that we are so interconnected and thus one callous action (or inaction) can cause so much damage to whole peoples half way across the world.

We need a new philosophy. The world needs a new system. Maybe we already have it – but we’re just not using it. Democracy is a fucking failure. Albeit it’s beautiful philosophy it does not work. We need a better mechanism other the that of the western styled ones, to re-establish a better social, political, economic and governing order.

How to develop charisma and self esteem

April 26, 2008

 

This article is taken wholesale from http://www.submityourarticle.com/articles/Peter-Dobler-427/self-esteem-2002.php.

I found it interesting that paying attention and treating others like they are very important will attract the same towards you. In short if you want self esteem – give others just that.

10 tips to improve your self esteem

Striving to improve our self esteem is on everybody’s mind. It doesn’t matter if you actively pursue this goal or you subconsciously working on improving your self esteem. The problem with this is that you really don’t know exactly what you want to improve. You’re acting intuitively on external signals.

Do you know how to improve your self esteem? Probably not. To make it a little bit easier for you and to achieve your goals quicker I put together 10 tips that you can utilize right away.

1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.

2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.

3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.

4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tent to be more successful in their career.

5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You’ll be amazed how this works.)

6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.

7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person’s name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation.

8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is the most important part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice…

9. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself. Are you responding to what may be going on in his or her life? Don’t filter out bad news. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Be caring.

10. Stay “in the moment.” Don’t mentally cut off the other person. Don’t reload while he or she is speaking. What this means is that you need to focus on the other person 100% during a conversation. Anything less is considered rude.

Next time you meet somebody new look out for these behaviors. Put a mental checkmark on the each of the 10 tips and see how well this person scored. Chances are that the person scored very high if you tent to like her/him. On the contraire the person probably scored low if you don’t seem to connect.

The more you practice the more likely you will create a positive aura which is commonly known as charisma. To step up to become a charismatic personality it takes more than just these 10 tips.

Creating a positive aura will benefit you in every thing you do. You will create a warmer ambience with your family. You will be more successful in your career. Even while trying to meet a partner of the opposite sex you will notice a difference on how people perceive you.

Unfortunately a small article can’t do justice on the wide spectrum of creating a positive aura and developing a charismatic personality. You will get the complete picture and step by step explanations in Race Kale’s new book “The Power of Charisma”.

 


Beautiful Poem to ponder in Contemplation of the Infinite

September 26, 2007

There is no secular definition for the word soul. The deepest recesses of the self are unknown to conscious awareness and yet we talk like we understand. In the quran it is written that nothing of the soul is known save a little.

The problem with the current secular oriented culture that tends to rob and deny the spiritual and non-material dimension of human existence. The ghost behind the machine, the will behind the volition, the very voice within our thoughts. It may seem odd that the current MTV culture is developed in such a way that life is lived in a superficial way and thoughts and actions are appraised by it’s causes and effects on the material self. What is unknown and not privy to objective materialist observation is deemed as hocus-pocus-fairy-tale stuff by secular materialism. And yet there is no denying since einstein that man has vastly underestimated the reality before him. Theoretical science (or even metaphysics) is beginning to sound more and more like religious dogma with hardly any consensus among the groups in the scientific commnity as to which is the way to go. Intellectual reach is limited by perceptual limitations and now we have infinitely more questions than we have answers for. Despite the complexities of the reality before us, the secular scholars find intellectual gratification in arrogantly holding on to simplistic answers. The m-theory, the multiverse theory, the theory of evolution gratify the base curiosities of the infinite complexities of reality.

This poem below is by a 19th century poet Khalil Gibran and he succintly puts the authors humble understanding of reality as nothing more than calculated speculation before an infinitely enigmatic reality.

Self-Knowledge

By Kahlil Gibran
(1883 – 1931)

And a man said, Speak to us of Self-Knowledge.
And he answered saying:
Your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights.
But your ears thirst for the sound of your heart’s knowledge.
You would know in words that which you have always known in thought.
You would touch with your fingers the naked body of your dreams.

And it is well you should.
The hidden well-spring of your soul must needs rise and run murmuring to the sea;
And the treasure of your infinite depths would be revealed to your eyes.
But let there be no scales to weigh your unknown treasure;
And seek not the depths of your knowledge with staff or sounding line.
For self is a sea boundless and measureless.

Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”
Say not, “I have found the path of the soul.” Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path.”
For the soul walks upon all paths.
The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
The soul unfolds itself, like a lotus of countless petals.

“Where is the best place to meet your woman?”

June 23, 2007

I was with my cousin Samer last week at a St Georges Road Eatery when he asked me this question. It was unexpected and I have never really thought about it. I was thinking somewhere along the lines of a beach resort in Mauritius. The thing about Samer is that he is an unusually poetic guy who can have the most unusual perspectives to ordinary things. Like once before he told me that

“I hold my Lover in my heart as a mother holds her child in her tummy”.

It’s a refreshing perspective that describes a whole host of experience for a simple subject : intense love, yearning, anxiety, curiosity, expectation, sacrifice, pain, protectiveness, miracle, hope, anguish, impatience etc.

Think for a second about it…

What would your answer be to the question of “Where is the best place to meet your woman”

His answer was very simple

“In my eyes”

A simple answer that was pregnant with meaning. He did not care where he met her as long as her image is in his eyes and that would be an ideal location for his woman to be because it means that his woman is within his reach when she is found in his eyes.

 I came across a beautiful poem one other day printed on a wedding invitation card that reflected upon such mental meanderings about love. It is probably one of the best poetry I’ve read that captured the essence and meaning of love. It told me love is something spiritual felt at the very heart of the human consciousness. Something that can never be manufactured or truely imitated. If there is anything that makes us essentially human it must be the capacity to feel and experience an irrational serendipitous love deep within the soul. 

This piece is by Rumi the great Persian Mystic:

I am only the house of your beloved,

Not the beloved herself:

True love is for the treasure,

Not for the coffer that contains it.

The real beloved is that one who is unique,

Who is your beginning and your end.

When you find that one,

you’ll no longer expect anything else:

that is both the manifest and the mystery.

That one is the lord of states of feeling,

dependent on none;

month and year are slaves to that moon.

During the day I praised you and I didn’t know

At night I laid with You and I didn’t know

I had thought that I was myself

But I was entirely You

And I didn’t know.